Dealing with players dating
Not all of us are sexually compatible and this is a good thing to know before remarrying. Besides, women have broken up with me without warning.” Yes, it’s all part of the process.
A couple of these women have reamed me out for not warning them that I may not commit to them. And I would add that it also takes a bit of time for other relationship dynamics to surface and this may not happen before a couple engages in sex. To my client’s credit, I saw no indication of the “player gene” in his background.
Most of his relationships were long-term, and he was able to hold a 20-year-marriage together without ever straying. Yes, but one can make a commitment without remarrying, or make a commitment and remarry at a more comfortable time for both parties.
In their defense, many of the women who use the term player have been traumatized by past relationship mishaps.
I fell in love with a woman who wrote to me on JDate in 2005.Some of these men are assumed to be purely out for sex; some are considered commitment phobic; and others are in temporarily suspended animation having re-entered the dating world a bit too early.Nevertheless, the online dating site profiles are fraught with some version of the following warning from women: “No players need apply—only those looking for a long-term relationship.” Many female accusers have a legitimate beef—and nobody wants to be played. If the relationship was shallow to begin with, do not be surprised if this happens. However, I am a natural winner and thought I had this all figured out. I am a completely independent, successful woman who (obviously) does not lack in confidence. The likelihood of being traded in some day once the appeal wears off. Having been married my entire adult life to my high school sweetheart minus the last two years and the last two years being mostly consumed with one man, I am late to the dating game. It leaves me at 33 with no clue as to what I am doing.