Dating a french guy
While I am occasionally thrown off by their penchant for elaborately draped skinny scarves, I must admit that the French have an unbeatable natural elegance about them.They know their qualité and their savoir-faire and their h man does not need to be taught how to dress or set the table or pick out a bottle of wine.It is so funny to see how some social behaviors are exactly the same between France and the US, and others are completely different. Well, this was a big shock to me when I arrived in the US. I understood of course a man and a woman could be interested in each other in a romantic way, let me reassure you.One of the very obvious difference is the dating game. But I was not aware that accepting to go out to dinner with a man alone gave the signal that I was possibly romantically interested in him.Even for a married woman to go out with a male friend who is single: I often travel to Paris by myself, Leyla and Olivier stay in Paimpol, and have dinner with one (or several) of our good male friend(s), single or not.Olivier trusts me, and we both trust our friend(s), who would never make a pass at me.But I would never do that to my Dad who would be very upset if I did. When I meet a man and I am without my husband, I’ll place within the first minutes of the conversation that “my husband blablabla… That usually is enough to make my state of mind really clear.I did the same thing as a girl, talking about my boyfriend (actually existing or not) early on in the conversation. And some people are just not faithful, but contrary to popular opinion, it’s not worse in France than anywhere else (and several studies demonstrate it). It’s in our genes and it’s socially accepted in France.
He’s really easy going, spoke a good level of English when we met and was familiar with American culture from TV and movies (and what did I know about French dating culture at the time? But as time went on and we discovered more about dating customs in our respective countries, we felt lucky to have found each other and just let things work naturally.Nor did I know about this first date, second date and third date business.In France, it’s very common for a girl to go out to dinner with a male friend.The thing is, I have not played the dating game for a very long time. Here we go…Unlike in the US, there is no specific plan as to what you need to do at the first, second or third date. If you date a French guy, he is with you, and you with him. More controversially, I also say that is all about risk management: take as good care of yourself as possible, and you will limit the chances of him having a roving eye. It is beyond me, because I am a happy-go-lucky sort of person, but it is a tried-and tested thing: if you appear to be too happy, they aren’t interested in you. I tried to mumble something about just being yourself, but I don’t think that it made the cut. I thought about her question for a long time, and started remembering that, because of my engineering studies and my various technical jobs, I used to be surrounded by men. I know that it is silly, and personally I hate being late. And chances are, he will arrive even later than you. But in Rome, you have to do as the Romans do, right? Men in general (and French men in particular) seem to love women with issues. She always had men flocking around her despite her sad face. Maybe French men love to be the knight in their shining armour.